Teaching Kids Respect in a Productive Way

Respect is a way of treating or thinking about something or someone. If you respect your teacher, you admire her and treat her well. (vocabulary.com) Teaching your children to respect in a positive and a productive way can be a very challenging task. So how should you do it?

Respect is an appreciation for someone because of who they are or what they have achieved. Respect is not the same as common courtesy although it can be a gesture of respect to show good manners. It is rather an inner feeling about a person, shown on a regular basis through loving and caring actions and words. Understanding the importance of respect is essential for our kids, so they can communicate effectively with others throughout their lives.

Children are the reflection of their parents. Parents are the role models for them. The most important character trait that the child needs to be taught is respect. Thus respect is one of the most significant values a child should have.

Teaching children respect can maintain healthy relationships with their dear and near ones and with their class fellows, friends and teachers etc. Teaching children respect can be in many forms and many ways. The outcome should be to ensure the children to lead a happy and healthy life and treat people with respect and gentleness.

Teaching kids respect can be in many ways and in many forms:

Parents are the role model.

One of the best ways to teach your kid respect is to treat him with respect at all times. Try listening to a child when he talks, without interrupting. Let him think that you can see his perspective and treat others with respect and kindness so that he can listen and learn.

Talking to a child in a respectful manner.

Calm down and talk to him when he is in a good mood. Respectfully raising children means a healthy family and it will strengthen your relationship with your children.

Teach children courtesy words such as e.g., saying “please” and “thank you” while doing any kind of favour for you. Use kind words in front of them and be firm, not rude with them. Tell them the stories of the people who show respect to others and be a role model for them. Consequently, the children will learn respect and not hate anyone and also stay away from violence.

Identify the reason for being disrespectful.

if a child is being disrespectful, identify the reason. Talk to his friends and teachers, maybe he is being bullied in the school by his class fellows and friends.

A mother should have a healthy relationship with her child.

A mother should have a good relationship with her children and be friends with them. She should teach her children to be respectful towards others and it’s their right to be respected. She should also explain all the inappropriate things that lurk on social media so that they are careful and not learn disrespect towards others from it.

Every child is different and has unique potential.

Every child is different and every child possesses unique talents and unique qualities. Thus we should interact with them according to their talents. Every child has its likes and dislikes, don’t force your liking on him. Let him decide things himself by giving him options. You need to keep your eyes on him. Guide him if he does something wrong or shows tantrum.

Respect others in front of kids and teach them respect.

Respect others in front of your child despite having different opinions and teach the same thing to your child. Don’t react negatively when a child is being disrespectful to others.

Spend quality time with them.

Spend time with them and teach respect and other important character traits. Give attention to a child and listen to him when he wants to talk to you. If he makes mistakes, let him learn from them. Respect comes from inside. it can’t be demanded. It can be earned by showing respect to others.

Children learn from their parents.

Say sorry to your children when you get angry and accidentally use inappropriate words. If you respect them, they will respect you in return. If you are disrespectful to them, they will be disrespectful towards you. They imitate in everything you say and do. You should be very careful in how you treat them and behave with them in a good manner and in a very respectful way. Take care of your tone when you interact with your child.

Respect them the way you like to be treated.

Respect is to treat others the way they deserve to be treated and the way we like to be treated. The problem arises when we don’t treat children and others with respect and kindness. Treating others with respect means you are dealing with them in a manner that indicates you are concerned for them and how they think. If you treat them with respect and gentleness and use proper etiquettes when you appreciate them, they will listen to you and follow your guidelines.

Keep them away from social media.

Don’t hand over or let them use tablets and other gadgets for too long or let them watch television too much. This applies to the use of social media too. Limit what they see and keep a check on what they interact and engage with online. Limit their time on social media platforms as they are the biggest reasons for a bad influence on our children.

Teach them etiquettes and communication skills.

Teach basic social and communication skills to your children and be polite while talking to him. Teaching children respect will bring lots of benefits for parents and children alike. Teach them values, don’t teach them rules. Give them instructions, not orders.

Appreciate them when they behave well.

Give an incentive or any reward when a child behaves well. It can create a feeling of respect and gratefulness in him and it will be a source of motivation and encouragement for him.

Show happiness in their company.

Show and acknowledge their presence when they are with you or when they come back from school. Teach them the good manners and family values while sitting, driving and during meal times. Enjoy their company in all situations. It will be a great impact on their personality.

Don’t be hasty in showing the reaction to the child

Don’t respond to a child immediately. Show respect and empathy to your child. Instruct and advise him in the best possible manner. If he feels something is difficult, don’t lose your temper and make him understand in a good positive way. The purpose should be improving the problem-solving skills and his sense of confidence should not be reduced. This is how he will learn to respect you.

Also, read on related topics: Teaching Children Empathy

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  1. I really like this. I’m not a parent yet but growing up I learnt fear instead of respect. I would like my children to respect me instead of fear that I was taught, I would like them to see me as a friend. This post is very important, so thank you for sharing.

  2. I love that you stress the importance of parents being good role models. When partners respect each other and make it a point to respect their kids’ choices, it is hard for a family not be pick up respect as a whole. Drawing attention to disrespect is also a great way to teach kids to be more aware! 🙂

  3. This post is perfect. I love how you explain how to teach the kids to respect others. Everything starting with family members behaviour. Family is shaping the character of a child that will become an independent adult.

  4. Nicely written and lovely tips. However, you mention not to react negatively when the child is being disrespectful but I think it’s also important to explain to the child that he or she is being disrespectful because they might feel entitled to being respected otherwise. Just my two cents though!

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